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Angela Kladis (Akladis)
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Posted on Tuesday, March 02, 2010 - 6:52 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

How would you handle a situation where a parent comes into your practice and starts questioning their child's playing time and starting position?
Dennis Mudd Jr (Shmily)
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Posted on Sunday, March 07, 2010 - 5:53 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Hopefully, this could be avoided by having a policy that states how and when playing time will be awarded. If that has not been done, I would first ask the parent to wait until after practice to discuss the situation. If they insist that they are to be heard then take them out into the hallway and let them rant and rave, Listen to them and when they have finished tell them that you need to think about what they had to say and that currently you need to coach the team and that you will be happy to set up a meeting once practice is over, to discuss the issue further. If they persist further, I would ask them to leave before I call the Administrator or possibly and this is last resort, the police. Hopefully, you can get them to leave before the last step is needed.
Mike Ludwig (Mludwig)
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Posted on Friday, September 10, 2010 - 6:02 am:   Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

As a coach the situation of playing time is bound to come up. We address the situation with our parents and players at the beginning of each season. Our policy is the player must come to the coach 1st before any discussion will be had with the parents. Parents are not in your practice, team meetings and other team funcions. They don't know everything that is going on behind the scenes. I have found that most times the players understand...but the parents don't.
Jon Hoffmann (Jmh1999)
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Posted on Monday, October 04, 2010 - 11:24 am:   Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Dealing with parents can sometimes be the hardest aspect of coaching. I know that for the hockey team I coach, we have a team meeting at the beginning of the season outlining team rules and policies. One of those items is that players must approach the coaching staff first with issues and concerns before a discussion is had with the parents. For the majority of the time, the issue is dealt with and done but for some, we do have parents come to us, usually this is after a game when the parents are there. For this, we have a 24 hour rule that basically states that we will not discuss any issues with parents for at least 24 hours after the game. This allows for them to calm down and usually the issue is all but forgotten. Letting parents know upfront that there is a waiting period before they can talk to you usually allows for issues to resolve themselves.

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